A Letter To My Younger Self: A Nicole Sumerlyn Guest Blog

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Dear Little Me,

How are you holding up?

I wish I could say that it all gets easier, and everything will make sense, but it doesn’t. Just know that you’ll need to learn to adapt, and learn to learn.

I’m sure you are wanting to know about all the adventures that are ahead of you, and though I won't give away all the secrets, I can let you in on a few things to expect.

You don’t marry him. He left out of the blue. And even though it clouds your happiness for a while, things get brighter. You don’t move to Nashville right after graduation, but you do visit often, and it's magical. There’s no big record deal yet, but just know that you’re making music that you are proud of. In fact, all your crazy dating adventures in your twenties will lead to the inspiration for your debut single. And that heartbreak you’ll never forget will result in a song that not only helps you get through that moment in life, but is one of the best you’ve been a part of writing. You get stronger and wiser with time. It may not seem like it at the moment, but it all worked out the way it did for a reason, even if it’s not obvious right away.

I’m writing this letter at 24. I’m living in unit 15, in a city apartment, with your two best friends. Like you, I’m still learning, and still trying to understand how things work. Remember – it’s okay to feel like you don’t all have it figured out. Here’s a little secret: everyone feels this way because no one has it all figured out.

Just because someone appears to have their lives completely together doesn’t mean they do. You beat yourself up comparing your life to others - you really gotta stop doing that – but the truth is that they are feeling the exact same way and making their own mistakes. Everyone has their own path. Embrace yours. It’s so easy to get caught up in caring about everyone’s opinions, but at the end of the day, you should spend more time trying to impress yourself first.

When it seems like everyone is passing you, and doing greater things, it just means that their time may have just come sooner than yours. Celebrate them. Let the feeling of envy go. You have a lot to offer in this world; it just isn’t your time yet. Be patient. The rest will happen as it should. If you force something, it will fail. Remember that Dad always says, “Luck Is What Happens When Preparation Meets Opportunity". When you start something, remember the reason why you started it in the first place. Don’t forget the goal.

In the meantime:

Be nice to your brother. Mom is always right. Visit your grandparents more. Money comes and goes. Stop beating yourself up about that night. Go on more hikes. Be patient. Stand your ground. Don’t throw yourself away to please somebody. Listen to understand, not to respond. Don’t skip class. Relationships aren’t like The Notebook. Stop sleeping in so late. Love your body more. Tomorrow is a new day. It will all work itself out.

And one last thing – it’s okay to be wrong. At least some of the time.

Love, Nicole